On a credit report, when you settle debt for less, it has a very similar affect as Bankruptcy 13, except it doesn't follow you around as a public record for seven years.
I am choosing to do Debt Settlement because I ethicially feel it's the right thing to do under my circumstances. Yes, it would be much easier to just file the Bankruptcy 13 and I wouldn't have the added tax implications of "cancelled debt", but I would be in a five year plan;five years of my life on hold making payments to a trustee and answering to the same. Also, everyone in town would know my situation as well, bankruptcies are published in our local paper, there wouldn't be a bank in town that would hire me. I think it will be much easier for me to just settle up this mess and move on and maybe no one will find out.
I have spoken with an attorney about what I am doing. He of course wants me to file bankruptcy and has asked me not to settle with anyone until I speak to him first. He advises that the credit card companies will only get pennies on the dollar if I file and etc., etc. If I fail at settlement and end up being sued, I will probably be forced into bankruptcy for protection and I'm praying that doesn't happen.
I'm finding it very difficult to deal with anything else in my life with all this debt hanging over my head. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think about it or talk about it. This has been going on since last October, when I realized my work was not going to change, the housing market was not going to rebound and my sinking ship was going down. The more you make the more you spend and your debt is higher as well. I never planned on this economic disaster. It is true that "it is not the hard times that will get you, it is the good times", living beyond your means and living the good life will destroy you financially when the bad times come. I certainly earned this and should have known better and planned better. I guess I needed to learn another one of those lessons of life.
In my community I am a highly respected professional, no one would have any idea the mess I am in. When I'm out and about and I see another business person and they start talking to me about how everything is going and how is my business doing; I usually just tell them everything is great, but inside myself I just think about the horror of my situation and pray they never find out, that no one finds out that a professional like myself, got herself in such a mess.
In my business head hunters are always calling and making offers for me to go work for them. There is one in particular that has been after me for three years. I haven't heard from her in about 9 months and I know it is due to the declining housing market, but I know that when things pick up she will start calling me again and will make an offer for me to go work for her; sign on bonus, commission tiers and etc. If I accept, the first criteria is for them to pull my credit; that is considered character in my business. I am so screwed I can't even change jobs, I'm stuck where I am and if my employer finds out about all this, I risk losing my job with them. Although we have very little work right now and I am only paid on performance (you can't work if there are no customers), I could still be let go because of my credit. My once 700 plus credit score has crashed to below 500 I bet, I don't really know because I don't dare to look. Legally they would not come right out and tell me why I was being let go, they would just eliminate my position or something, I know how this works. Several years ago a very nice lady in a bank I worked in, filed joint bankruptcy because her husband's business failed, the powers that be kindly took her aside and her job was eliminated. A small community where everyone knows everything and bankruptcy is published in the local paper.
I've been struggling not to fall into depression here, but with the long winters here, the lack of work and my obsession with my debt, it's very hard not to. I never sleep through a full night anymore, I don't do much outside of the house and I really don't have a lot of energy right now. All classical symptoms of depression. Well now I can tell the credit card companies that not only have I lost my income, I'm now mentally ill; maybe that will help my case.
Guess I'm just having a bad day here and anyone who is in my position or has been, will understand. Sometimes you just need to ramble on. I think I will go cook something ... I love to cook.
Debt Settlement vs Bankruptcy
January 21st, 2008 at 01:56 am
January 21st, 2008 at 06:01 am
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January 21st, 2008 at 07:50 am
Brad
January 21st, 2008 at 07:50 am
You have several options. You can walk away from your debt and dispute that you owe the debt at all. You can dispute each entry on your credit report and as here in Arkansas, the Supreme Court says the burden of proof is that of the Credit Card Bank.
If you are interested in what the law says, and I am not an attorney, but I do know of attorneys here and across the country that will work with you to win your case against them.
Don't give up, never give up.
oliver@ipa.net
January 21st, 2008 at 08:32 am
Is there someone you could trust to talk things through in strictest confidence, such as a clergyman?
In the meantime, please remember to just take it one day at a time, one step at a time, one breath at a time.
January 21st, 2008 at 08:58 am
scfr has a good point. Talking to someone you can trust can help with the depression. Just ventilating can also help. People here are good "listeners" and are very supportive.
It took a long time to get so indebted, and you won't clear up the situation quickly, but each little victory will show you that better days are ahead.
January 21st, 2008 at 03:02 pm
January 21st, 2008 at 03:29 pm
January 21st, 2008 at 06:54 pm
You must forgive me as I have no idea what kind of payment it takes to service that dollar amount of debt each month, but I'm assuming from reading thru your posts that up until recently you were able to make your payments and maybe a downturn in the economy is now making it difficult/impossible??
Just trying to get a handle on where you're at - so maybe the folks here can assist with some more spot on advice...
January 22nd, 2008 at 02:52 am
January 22nd, 2008 at 07:55 am
I have helped others with their credit problems by doing a mortage audit on your closing documents.
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January 24th, 2008 at 05:06 am
May 18th, 2008 at 01:17 am
My brother and sister are attorneys and I was advised to file for bankruptcy instead of settlement because a)my credit was equally ruined either way and b)with the future uncertain, I could have ended up filing bankruptcy anyway. I'm glad I took this advice and like you, I struggled with the decision.
If you haven't settled yet, you may want to reconsider. I don't think your reputation will be a lot different whether you go with chapter 7 or with chapter 13--but the risk is higher. And you always have the option to repay when you have the money if you feel morally obligated. Good luck and hope you're doing well.
September 2nd, 2008 at 10:08 pm
God Bless You...
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August 21st, 2009 at 11:18 pm
I lost my job last year. I have a good paying job before and we live comfortably until that horrible day happened. I pay my bills with another credit card just to keep afloat. After a couple of months I was able to find a full time job but I am not taking home the paycheck that I used to have and now I maxed out my credit card. I really don't know what to do. I am also scared to let my workplace know about this because I work in a financial institution.
I continously look for a second job but no luck. My husband now works 7 days a week. He found a part time job on the weekends. We are only using one car because the other car is not safe to drive and I can't afford to have it repaired. I can't focus on my job because I am scared that my creditors will call me and to make it worst I don't have a direct line. The calls goes to a group of people who handle phone calls. It's tough. Not unless you are in this situation you won't know how difficult it is.I can't even sleep at night. Oh God please help us.
November 4th, 2009 at 12:18 pm